Failed marriage. Disappointing relationships. Infidelity. Heartbreak. We all experience these things at some point. But the real question is whether we’re fighting a losing battle, or simply missing an important piece of the puzzle.|
We live in a time of change. Traditional values are being abandoned and replaced by more progressive ones. Marriage used to be regarded as a sacred bond between a man and a woman, where the two would share a common household, procreate, raise children, and grow old together. In fact, the Nuclear family was the basis of society, and any deviation from the norm was considered unnatural, and even shameful. Clearly, that is not the case anymore.
Divorce is an option that many choose, often re-marrying several times during their lives. Pre-marital sex is no longer discouraged, but instead indirectly promoted by mass media outlets. People are constantly in and out of relationships, swapping partners with ease, increasingly more concerned with their careers and social status. Kids are less influenced by their biological parents than by film stars and musicians, models and talk show hosts.
So we have to ask ourselves, why are we even getting married anymore? To declare our love? But surely we can do that without involving the authorities. The truth is that marriage, from a traditional perspective, doesn’t make sense in this day and age. The logic behind it is gone and only convention remains. We must either abolish the concept entirely, or redefine marriage on a fundamental level, in the context of our developing society.
Apart from marriage, relationships in general have always posed considerable problems for both genders. It seems that we are plagued by personal insecurities and emotional fears, surrendering to narcissism and physical pleasures. Not surprisingly, this often leads to frustration, abuse, infidelity and mistrust, followed by a painful breakup and a lasting sense of disappointment. It has been this way since the dawn of mankind and the issue remains unresolved. So maybe weakness is simply part of our nature - a defining feature of humanity. Is there any point in struggling against the current, or has our ship already sunk?
These matters are pressing. A new world is upon us, whether we like it or not, and we must peel off the dead skin by discarding outdated beliefs and throwing them in the wastebasket. But in order to do that, we must first grow a fresh layer of skin in place of the old one. Otherwise we risk exposing our core and contracting a deadly social disease – incurable and potentially lethal.